#01. Towards a New Beginning!

HOW ARE YOU?

I am just like all of us. I have my own way and structure of living, my own values and beliefs and my own way of nurturing myself and others. I am not selfish or may be a little, like all of us, as we deny that, don’t we? I am not here to preach or teach. This one is for myself as I just want to write these thoughts. I write these thoughts because I just don’t want to merely survive, I want to live and fortunately I have lived, rather than playing the game of survival of the fittest (most of the time precisely). 

This one is my first up – HOW ARE YOU? You have asked me this and I might have asked you this so many times that I have lost count. What are we expecting in return – I am fine, thank you!? That is what they teach us in the etiquette classes right? Be this, be that and behave this way and that way. Well, I agree to all of that and I do follow all of that... but is this question ('how are you'?) only about that? 

One day someone asked me, ‘So how are you Mandira?’ and that day, I did have lots to say. But as I blurted out three to four sentences the listener drifted the topic to something completely dry and absurd. I stopped, I swallowed and gulped some water. I sat at my desk for a while and asked myself, ‘Mandira, did you do that when you asked someone How are you?’ – Unfortunately, the answer was – Sometimes Yes! I didn’t feel good about this. And I promised next time I ask someone How are you… I would prepare myself you be all ears to hear the answer and not look only for a – I am fine, Thank you!